Philip Johnson Counselling Sydney CBD

2006-09-14T23:01:00.000+10:00

Philip Johnson...

Philip Johnson
BCHC Member MCAPA
By appointment
8am to 8pm Monday to Friday
Saturday 8am to 4pm

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Sessions by appointment
Counselling SYDNEY CBD
Suite 2a, Level 4 Dymocks Building
428 George Street Sydney CBD

Counselling EDGECLIFF
Suite 6, Ground Floor
Edgecliff Mews
201 New South Head Rd Edgecliff

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I specialise in working with individuals, couples (marriage and de-facto, heterosexual, gay, bisexual and lesbian) interested in improving work and personal relationships.

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Feeling confident helps establish an environment where obstacles and challenges are overcome more easily. A major part of the counselling process I employ is designed to give you greater confidence to help you understanding yourself and others leading to achieving independence, differentiation and maturity.

choosingchange is about... discovering choices and exploring ways to make changes.

Please call to ask questions about how I work or for other details or to make an appointment —

02 9362 3025 0425 0281 251 1300 667 996

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Relationships
Marriage Counselling
Individual Counselling
Couple, pre-marital
Gay & Lesbian Counselling
Conflict Resolution
Sexuality
Gender Issues
Life Coaching
Grief and Loss
Addictions

Counselling and psychological therapy is about gaining knowledge about yourself in order to better operate in the world. This can sometimes be about a specific issue, or more generally about the whole of your life. Functioning well in the world of relationships (family, friends, loved ones, work colleagues...) makes life easier and exciting. This gives you a sense of wellbeing.

Understanding how you operate, what are your ways of seeing things, as well as having an understanding of how other people operate, means you are going to be better equipped to cope if you find yourself in difficult situations.

Sometimes people have difficulty understanding that what they want is not necessarily what other people want. Finding ways of compromising and letting everyone have their desires met (the win-win situation) is an important start on the road to better living.

Exploring the psyche and self is a most rewarding activity. People often say they are just beginning their lives, or they feel re-born after. Finding someone to help that process begin is the start of an incredible journey. When you are ready to travel that is when you will travel. You will know when you are ready.

From a position of "not knowing"
To explore what it means to be a man or woman, gay or straight, bisexual, happy, depressed, saddened, lonely, poor, rich, glad, mean, dirty, pure, sullied, unlucky... and the millions of other things that swing through pur minds each second... to study these things is a way, I believe, of coming to an understanding of our world and our place in this world, this universe.

Socrates advocated to "never cease to question why we believe what we do believe". Is there the faintest possibility that I may be wrong in my assumptions? The assumptions that I basing my decisions to do things or believe things? For if there is a possibility I may be wrong then I better be careful about what I do, based on these "wrongfully formed beliefs".

Personally, I try to come from a position of not knowing. First of all this allows me the luxury of never being the expert in anything but my direct actions. I am allowed to question everything, submit my ideas and beliefs and potential actions to survey and concern and fine examination to see if these idea/actions are a good "fit" for me. This is how I will be in the room with you. "Let's talk about it," I will say. You will choose the topic and you will determine the path we walk.

Why see a counsellor?

You will know when you are ready to see a counsellor.

"The person is pretty much what he says he is." (Hall & Lindzey, 1966, p.498)

Do you feel that you would like
to have a greater working relationship with your colleagues
to make your personal relations more rewarding, smoother
to embrace your close friends but find yourself drawing away?
to make great friends with the people you meet?
Depending on what things you want to talk about will result in the kind of help provided. Most people like to learn assertiveness skills and like to feel a greater sense of self.

Counselling can help all kinds of issues. Sometimes people want behaviour changes; others like to delve into the meaning of life. In many cases re-telling the stories we have been told (or have we have been telling ourselves over many years) can make significant changes to how we feel about our future and ourselves.

Many families have patterns of behaviour that have negative outcomes for all members of the family... from great-grandmothers to tiny babies. Family therapy is helpful here and this can be carried out with individuals, couples or whole families.

Finding a way of having choices is the key to having a satisfying, fulfilling and rewarding life
The counselling I offer is mainly directed to

Marriage or relationship issues
Self Assertiveness
Individual, couple and family
Grief and Loss
Life Coaching for exams and goal achievement
Addictions — gambling, drinking, other drugs, sex
Gay and Lesbian
Sexuality and gender issues
Gender roles

Counselling can help you find out how to make choices
If you find things you want unattainable what do you say to yourself? Some people have a belief that they will never succeed and so expect failure. They see failure at every turn.

Turning these thought patterns around so the expectation is success makes huge differences to their lives.
Counselling and psychotherapy can start this process and teach you to do this yourself.

The way people act is often the way they expect themselves to act. As children we assume things we are told by our parents are true. Only years later do we discover that there are other realities.

Find out the truth of your reality.

Are some of your ideas about people and life mistaken beliefs?
Wanting to understand what your partner is saying and wanting your partner to understand you is crucial to getting on.
Check out if they have really heard you when you speak to people. Repeat back what you think you heard when other people speak to you. Clarity is everything.
Thinking irrationally can lead to irrational behaviour.
People do not always do what we want.
Learning how to cope with our unfulfilled expectations can make a difference to you outcomes and your life satisfaction.
All of us take on the expectations of society at large. Gay and Lesbian people can take on the expectations of society at large that are not appropriate. When they do this, heterosexist ideals can manifest unattainable goals, which can lead to despair.
Internalised homophobia plays havoc with self-esteem.
Couple therapy is designed to reintroduce integrity and intimacy into the relationship.
This is manifested through involving both people in a caring, considerate appraisal of all aspects of marriage — romantic, psychological, physical, and spiritual.
Being alone does not mean you need be lonely. Solitude can be a time for healing
Learning relaxation techniques, walking, yoga and other calming exercises can help in bringing understanding around aloneness.
When you experience the feeling that being alone means you are unloved, unlovable or bad, I would urge you to challenge those feelings.
Nine-times-out-of-ten you will find you have many loveable qualities, often obscured by your own negative thoughts and actions.