Perfectionism
There are two ways of viewing the perfectionist…
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One who aspires to having the very best in their life without compromising their sense of self and a healthy respect for their own place in the world…
one who aspires to having the very best in the world compromising their sense of self and holding the consistently unrealistic view that not attaining this perfect place deems them a complete failure with the inevitable self-loathing to boot.
It is good to aspire to reach the stars. I can think of nothing better than spending the rest of my life flying to the outer edges of the universe in order to discover the meaning of life. Quite a good chance that this ultimate goal is unachievable so I 'll make sure i have plenty of books and lots of music to listen to on the journey.
And it is the journey that is the point. It seems that many people lose all sight of living thoroughly. I mean, living in the moment and enjoying the wonderfulness of what they already have, which may well include striving for the best. Living unrealistically is an extremely time consuming activity and only ends in unhappiness.
I'm inclined to utter the most un-counselly words like… get over it. But that is definitely not what I am saying. I am, however, going ask a very pertinent question… What does striving for the ultimate bring you? Constantly striving for perfection sounds like you are attempting to be god. And we all know who god is, don't we?!?!
For more help book and appointment: Go to www.choosingchange.com.au
Alert... you will need one large pair of spectacles.
One who aspires to having the very best in their life without compromising their sense of self and a healthy respect for their own place in the world…
one who aspires to having the very best in the world compromising their sense of self and holding the consistently unrealistic view that not attaining this perfect place deems them a complete failure with the inevitable self-loathing to boot.
It is good to aspire to reach the stars. I can think of nothing better than spending the rest of my life flying to the outer edges of the universe in order to discover the meaning of life. Quite a good chance that this ultimate goal is unachievable so I 'll make sure i have plenty of books and lots of music to listen to on the journey.
And it is the journey that is the point. It seems that many people lose all sight of living thoroughly. I mean, living in the moment and enjoying the wonderfulness of what they already have, which may well include striving for the best. Living unrealistically is an extremely time consuming activity and only ends in unhappiness.
I'm inclined to utter the most un-counselly words like… get over it. But that is definitely not what I am saying. I am, however, going ask a very pertinent question… What does striving for the ultimate bring you? Constantly striving for perfection sounds like you are attempting to be god. And we all know who god is, don't we?!?!
For more help book and appointment: Go to www.choosingchange.com.au
